Caregivers’ Guide to Medications and Aging

“Any symptom in an elderly patient should be considered a drug side effect until proved otherwise.”
Brown University Long-term Care Quality Letter, 1995.

Modern medicines have contributed to longer life spans, improved health and better quality of life. Medications are the most common treatment for many diseases and conditions seen in older people and persons with disabilities. Medicines now not only treat and cure diseases that were untreatable just a few years ago, they aid in the early diagnosis of disease; prevent life-threatening illnesses; relieve pain and suffering; and allow people with terminal illnesses to live more comfortably during their last days.

However, for older adults and people with disabilities, medications—prescription, over-the-counter, social drugs such as alcohol, and herbal remedies/alternative medicines—can be a double-edged sword. When not used appropriately, effectively and safely, medications can have devastating consequences.

The changes that occur with aging and disability make people more likely to suffer medication-related problems (MRPs). Nevertheless, research has shown that medication-related problems are often preventable. Caregivers can play a key role in helping to identify when an actual or potential MRP is occurring. This assistance can help prevent the costly and unwanted negative consequences of medication use, such as admission to acute care hospitals, assisted living facilities or nursing homes. About one quarter of all nursing home admissions are due at least in part to the inability to take medication correctly.

Research has shown that a high percentage of caregivers help their friends or relatives manage medications. Caregivers for people with Alzheimer’s disease and other memory impairments commonly report problems with getting their relative or friend to take medications on time, in the right amount, and as directed. In surveys, caregivers often report that their knowledge of their loved one’s medications—intended uses, directions for use, side effects, possible interactions—is greater than that of the care recipients themselves.

When patients, caregivers, doctors and pharmacists function as a team, medication-related problems can be avoided, contributing to better outcomes and improved daily functioning. This Fact Sheet serves as a caregiver’s guide to medication use and provides tips on what to do about the challenges of that use.

How a Pharmacist Can Help You

Older adults, people with disabilities and caregivers may encounter challenges when taking medications. Resolving these problems can lead to much better results from medicines. Consumers and caregivers must alert their doctors and pharmacists to any difficulties they have taking medications, including the following:

  • Memory: Difficulty remembering to take medications. The pharmacist can provide a variety of special pill boxes or other aids that remind a caregiver and senior to take medications. The devices range from low-tech, such as simple containers with compartments labeled for meals and bedtime, to high-tech, such as containers that beep when it’s time for a dose, or a special bottle cap that counts openings of a prescription bottle to tell if the day’s doses have been taken. For those with severe memory impairments, caregivers are key to the proper administration of all medicines. In addition, some aging-related service organizations offer medication reminder telephone calls for older persons with memory problems.
  • Vision: Difficulty reading labels on prescription labels and over-the-counter products. Pharmacists may be able to provide prescription labels in large print. Health care providers and caregivers can read the information on over-the-counter products for consumers with vision impairment. Magnifying glasses may also be helpful.
  • Hearing: Difficulty hearing instructions from health care professionals. Ask doctors, nurses, and pharmacists to speak louder and/or write down important information relevant to the safe use of medications. Caregivers can also be “the ears” for seniors with hearing impairments.
  • Dexterity: Difficulty opening bottles, inability to break tablets, problems handling medicines such as eye drops, inhalers for asthma and other lung disease, and insulin injections. These problems are common for people with arthritis and certain types of disabilities. Large, easy-open bottle tops are available for prescription medicines. If a prescription dose is one-half tablet, the pharmacist can split the tablets for you. Caregivers are key to assisting with the administration of eye drops, inhaled medications, injections, and other dosage forms that require fine motor skills. Again, pharmacies can provide instruction sheets on administration of medicines.
  • Swallowing: Difficulty swallowing tablets or capsules. Many prescription and over-the-counter products are available in a variety of dosage forms such as a liquid, skin patch, or suppository, greatly reducing difficulties associated with swallowing. Ask your pharmacist about alternative dosage forms.
  • Scheduling logistics: Scheduling many different medications throughout the day. One of the greatest challenges for older persons and caregivers is working medication schedules into daily routines. Special pill boxes and other aids, described above, can help. It’s essential that older people and caregivers devise a plan for medication administration that fits their daily schedule. For example, meal times or bedtimes can be used as cues for scheduling medication if mealtimes and bedtimes are regularly scheduled. Doctors and pharmacists can assist in developing a plan to best suit your daily schedule.

Too Many Medicines

One very common problem associated with medication use among older adults and many people with disabilities is the use of multiple medications at one time, also referred to as “polypharmacy.” Research has shown that the more medications a person takes, the greater the risk of experiencing a medication-related problem. For most older persons, multiple medication use is the norm. Many chronic conditions or diseases—diabetes, heart disease, Parkinson’s disease, arthritis, incontinence, high blood pressure, pulmonary disease, osteoporosis, Alzheimer’s disease—often require the use of multiple medications. The focus must be the appropriateness, effectiveness, and safety of all prescription and over-the-counter medications. Caregivers must ask questions about each medication, such as:

  • Is this medication really needed?
  • Is the medication the most appropriate for the medical condition being treated?
  • Will the medication be a problem with other medical conditions that are occurring at the same time?
  • Is the medication being prescribed at the right dose?
  • Does the medication interact with other medications?
  • Can the medication be taken correctly based on specific patient circumstances?

Some of the challenges faced by caregivers who must juggle multiple medications for their loved ones include keeping all the prescriptions filled, especially during weekends and holidays, and managing medications prescribed by multiple doctors. Planning ahead to refill prescriptions on time is essential; keeping an up-to-date medication record can inform doctors of all medicines prescribed by others. A “Caregiver’s Notebook”—a looseleaf binder maintained by a caregiver—is an ideal way to com-pile information on medical diagnoses, doctors’ appointments, questions, and medication history.

Preventing Medication-Related Problems

An important step to preventing problems is for health care professionals, consumers and caregivers to understand what medication-related problems are, to recognize the signs and symptoms of actual and potential MRPs, and to identify appropriate steps that can be taken to reduce the incidence of these common and costly problems.

It’s important to keep in mind that medication effects can directly impact the daily functioning of older and disabled persons. These effects or “symptoms” of MRPs may include:

  • excessive drowsiness
  • confusion
  • depression
  • delirium
  • insomnia
  • Parkinson’s-like symptoms
  • incontinence
  • muscle weakness
  • loss of appetite
  • falls and fractures
  • changes in speech and memory

When these symptoms appear, they should be considered “red flags” to caregivers that an MRP may be happening.

Need for New Medication

This medication-related problem occurs when a person has a medical condition that requires a new or additional medication, but none has been provided. Examples among the older and disabled population include pain and depression, which often go undiagnosed, undertreated or untreated. These conditions are frequently assumed by some health care professionals to be a “normal part of aging.” Inadequate treatment for pain and depression can lead to declines in functioning and participation in social activities.

Seniors often do not discuss all their symptoms with their health care professionals; many health care professionals do not adequately assess for all possible diseases and conditions. Proper assessment by health care professionals is essential so that symptoms can be identified and proper treatment initiated. Seniors and their caregivers must also feel comfortable discussing their symptoms—no matter how sensitive—with health care professionals.

Unnecessary Medication

This medication-related problem occurs when a patient is taking a medication that is unnecessary given the patient’s current medical problems—i.e., there is no longer a valid medical reason to use the medication. In addition, if a patient receives combination therapy when a single drug would be equally effective, then the patient would be receiving unnecessary medication. Patients who are exposed to unnecessary medications may experience toxic effects. The cost of unnecessary medications is also a consideration, especially for many seniors who have limited incomes.

Wrong Medication

This medication-related problem occurs when a person has a medical condition for which the wrong medication is being taken. When a patient is not experiencing the intended positive outcomes from a certain medication, then the wrong medication may have been prescribed. Examples include inappropriate dosage form; the condition is non-responsive to the medication; medication is not indicated for the condition being treated; or a more effective medication is available. Patients and their caregivers must have a clear understanding of what to expect—and when to expect it—when taking medications. When the result is different, the doctor should be contacted to make him or her aware of the situation.

Dose Too Low

This type of MRP occurs when a patient has a medical condition for which too little of the correct medication has been prescribed or too little is taken. Medication dosages are considered too low if a patient has an appropriate indication for a medication, is not experiencing any side effects from the medication, yet is not realizing the desired benefit. When the correct medication is prescribed and the dose is too low, the benefits of the medication can be minimal or none at all, and may result in serious unpleasant effects through poor treatment. Simply adjusting the dosage and/or dosage interval can improve the clinical outcomes. Again, patients and their caregivers must have a clear understanding of what to expect from their medications.

Dose Too High

Perhaps the most common medication-related problem among older persons is when the correct medication is prescribed, but the dose is too high. This MRP frequently occurs in older people because the physical changes of aging can alter the way our bodies process and react to medications. For example, in the aging body, the liver and kidneys may not as easily remove medications. In addition, changes in the distribution of fat and muscle can make seniors more susceptible to adverse drug events.

These changes increase an older person’s sensitivity to a potential adverse effect. A “normal dose” of a medication can be an overdose for many older persons. Some medications, however, are used in the same doses for both older and younger adults. Medications that act on the central nervous system (CNS) are particularly problematic because older persons are extra sensitive to the adverse effects of these medications. Examples include antidepressants, sedatives, antipsychotics, and some blood pressure medications. Signs that a dose may be too high include dizziness, confusion, delirium, insomnia, Parkinson’s-like symptoms, loss of appetite, falls, and changes in memory.

Adverse Drug Reactions (ADRs)

ADRs can occur when a patient is receiving a medication considered to be unsafe based on:

  • the characteristics of the patient;
  • an allergic reaction to the medication;
  • an interaction with another medication or food;
  • the incorrect administration of the medication; or
  • a medication dosage increased or decreased too rapidly.

Drug interactions can produce uncomfortable or dangerous adverse effects. A very common drug interaction involves blood-thinning medications that can thin the blood even more when combined with aspirin and some other pain relievers. Before prescribing any new drug, the doctor should be aware of all the other drugs the patient may be taking.

Failure to Receive Drugs

For medications to be safe and effective, they must be taken at a particular dosage, at specified times, and for a specific period of time. There are many reasons why patients don’t receive medications as prescribed. A patient, for example, may perceive that the medication has caused or will cause some adverse event, is confused about why and how to take the medication, or finds it inconvenient to take the medication.

The high cost of medications and the limited coverage for prescription drugs in public and private health insurance are major causes people don’t take their medicines. The use of generic medications, if available, helps reduce out-of-pocket expenses. Many pharmaceutical companies provide free medications or special discounts to persons with low incomes. Call around for the lowest price; many pharmacies will match the prices of their competitors. Ask your doctor for samples.

Several states offer pharmaceutical assistance programs for low-income seniors who are not Medicaid-eligible. Pharmacists can assist seniors in obtaining medications through these programs. (Food stamps and rental assistance can also help by making additional money available for medications.) Medicare outpatient prescription drug benefit changes may also provide assistance with certain medication costs to a select group of older people when they go into effect in 2006.

“Natural” Does Not Necessarily Mean Safe and Effective

The sale of herbal products in the U.S. is largely unregulated. Companies that sell these products are not required to demonstrate their safety and effectiveness. Some herbal ingredients are not listed on the packaging or the listing may be incomplete or inaccurate, so you may not know what you are taking. Although some herbal and other natural products may be beneficial in some instances, they can have significant and sometimes unpredictable side effects. Many herbals also interact with prescription and over-the-counter medicines. For example, ginkgo biloba, frequently used for memory loss, may interact with blood thinners, high-blood pressure medications, and certain pain relievers such as ibuprofen and naproxen. To avoid problems with herbal medicines, talk to your doctor or pharmacist about any herbals you use or are considering using.

The Basics of Safe Medication Use

  • Keep updated lists of all medicines, both for yourself and for the person you are caring for. Keep the lists with you at all times (click here to download a sample Medication Record Form). Include prescription drugs, over-the-counter medicines, vitamins, other nutritional products, and herbal remedies on the list. Share the lists with your doctors or the doctors of the person you are caring for.
  • Some caregivers have to prepare and administer injectable medicines, such as insulin. Injections involve the use of a syringe and needle, which may be inserted under the skin or into a vein or muscle. Be certain that you understand and are comfortable with preparing the proper dosage and administering the injection. Nurses in doctors offices and pharmacists can and should instruct you on the proper techniques for injectable medicines.
  • Store all of your medications in a designated location in your home. Keep all medications stored together in one place unless they require refrigeration or are labeled “store in a cool place.” This will help if an emergency situation occurs and your doctor needs to review all your medications.
  • Be sure that your medications are stored out of reach of any children that may visit, especially if you have non-child proof containers. If you are caring for someone with cognitive or memory problems, be sure all medications are safely stored away.
  • Do not mix different medications together in one container; this will make it difficult if not impossible to identify your medications in an emergency.
  • Medicines should be stored in a cool, dry area. Do not store your medications in the medicine cabinet in the bathroom or in the kitchen because heat and moisture cause deterioration. Instead, store your medications in a designated area in your bedroom, dining room or living room.
  • Medications stored in the refrigerator should be separated from other items in the refrigerator. Consider keeping refrigerated medications in a plastic box or container in one consistent location in the refrigerator.
  • Medications taken by mouth should be kept separate from other items that are for external use only, such as creams and ointments.
  • Expired medications (there are expiration dates on all of your medications) and any medication that your doctor has discontinued should be discarded.
  • Never share or give your medications to another person.

Questions about Medications for Physicians and Pharmacists

One responsibility of patients and their caregivers is to fully prepare for medical appointments. Before visits, write down everything you want to talk about, including important questions related to medications. Take notes during appointments, and review the notes after the appointment. You may have additional questions to ask of doctors and pharmacists, such as:

  • Why is this medicine prescribed?
  • How does the medicine work in my body?
  • How can I expect to feel once I start taking this medicine?
  • How will I know that the medicine is working? Is there a typical time period after which my symptoms should improve?
  • How long will I have to take the medicine? Will I need a refill when I finish this prescription?
  • Will this medicine interact with other medications—prescription and nonprescription—that I am taking now?
  • Should I take this medicine with food? Are there any foods or beverages I should avoid? (Grapefruit, for example, may interfere with the action of certain medications.) Is it safe to drink alcohol while on this medicine?
  • Are there any activities I should avoid while taking this medicine?
  • Can this medicine be chewed, crushed, dissolved, or mixed with other medicines?
  • What possible problems might I experience with the medicine? How can I prevent these problems from occurring? At what point should I report problems with the medicine?
  • What should I do if I miss a dose of this medicine, or take too much?
  • What is the cost of the medicine prescribed? Is there a less expensive alternative prescription?
  • Is a generic version of this medicine available? If so, should I purchase the generic instead of the brand name medicine?
  • Do you have written information about the medicine that I can take home with me?
  • Does the pharmacy provide special services such as home delivery or comprehensive medication review and counseling?

Sharing the Responsibility

The scope and severity of problems that can occur with medication therapy are tremendous. To prevent these problems from occurring, consumers and caregivers, as well as their health care professionals, have a responsibility to ensure appropriate, safe and effective medication use. All professionals involved in prescribing and dispensing—as well as the consumer and caregiver—should consider themselves essential members of the health care team. The consumer or caregiver who alerts their doctor or nurse to the need for changes to medication therapy plays a vital role in getting the best treatment.

Consumer and caregiver responsibilities center on effective communication with the health care team. This includes presenting actual or potential medication-related problems in a timely manner to health care professionals, and participating in resolution of the problems. Before this can happen, consumers and caregivers must be able to recognize the possible signs and symptoms of a medication-related problem. For older adults, any symptom should be considered a medication-related problem until proved otherwise. When symptoms interfere with daily functioning and when the time sequence of the symptom indicates that it was caused by a medication, then a health care professional should be informed immediately.

Consumers and caregivers share responsibilities by expressing their concerns, expectations, and any lack of understanding about medication therapy and demanding answers to their questions. Consumers need to be able to present health care professionals with accurate and complete information about health conditions. It is important for consumers with new medical problems to fully describe the problem, indicate how long it has been a problem, if the problem has been experienced before, how it started, what was done to relieve it, and what worked or didn’t work. For seniors with cognitive impairments, caregivers play a vital role in recognizing changes in health conditions and effectively describing problems to health care professionals.

Resources

Family Caregiver Alliance
785 Market Street, Suite 750
San Francisco, CA 94103
(415) 434-3388
(800) 445-8106
Web Site: www.caregiver.org
E-mail: info@caregiver.org

Family Caregiver Alliance (FCA) seeks to improve the quality of life for caregivers through education, services, research and advocacy.

FCA’s National Center on Caregiving offers information on current social, public policy and caregiving issues and provides assistance in the development of public and private programs for caregivers.

For residents of the greater San Francisco Bay Area, FCA provides direct family support services for caregivers of those with Alzheimer’s disease, stroke, ALS, head injury, Parkinson’s and other debilitating brain disorders that strike adults.

American Society of Consultant Pharmacists (ASCP) and the ASCP Research and Education Foundation
www.ascp.com and www.ascpfoundation.org
Toll Free: (800) 355-2727

ASCP is the international professional association that works to advance the practice of senior care pharmacy. ASCP’s 6,500+ members manage and improve drug therapy and improve the quality of life of geriatric patients and other individuals residing in a variety of environments, including nursing facilities, subacute care and assisted living facilities, psychiatric hospitals, hospice programs, and home and community-based care.

SeniorCarePharmacist.com
www.SeniorCarePharmacist.com

This web site provides practical information about safe medication use for older persons and includes a directory of senior care pharmacists across the country who are specialists in geriatric drug therapy and the unique medication-related needs of older persons. Senior Care Pharmacists can identify and prevent medication-related problems through careful evaluation and monitoring of patients’ drug regimens.

American Geriatrics Society
www.americangeriatrics.org/products/booktoc.shtml
(212) 308-1414

The American Geriatrics Society’s Complete Guide to Aging & Health is a comprehensive resource for the lay audience that includes invaluable and expert advice for those of us who want to prepare ourselves for a healthy old age or ensure proper care for our older loved ones.

Food and Drug Administration
www.fda.gov/cder/consumerinfo/DPAdefault.htm
Toll Free: (888) 463-6332

FDA provides consumers with information on pre-scription, generic, and over-the-counter drug products. The Center for Drug Evaluation and Research has developed numerous informational materials to help consumers make informed decisions about using medicines.

National Council on Patient Information and Education (NCPIE)
www.talkaboutrx.org
(301) 656-8565

NCPIE is a coalition of over 130 organizations committed to safer, more effective medicine use through better communication. NCPIE’s information is designed to help consumers make sound decisions about the use of medicines.

Peter Lamy Center for Drug Therapy and Aging, School of Pharmacy, University of Maryland
www.pharmacy.umaryland.edu/lamy/
Toll Free: (877) 706-2434

The Center is dedicated to improving drug therapy for aging adults through programs and publications including a series called the ElderCare Brochures, intended to address the complexities of medications and multiple disease states.

For information on Medicare prescription coverage, visit www.medicare.gov and www.medicarerights.org.

References

Cipolle, R. J., Strand, L. M., & Morley P. C. (1998). Pharmaceutical Care Practice. New York: McGraw Hill.

Hanlon, J. T., et al. (1997). Adverse drug events in high risk older outpatients. Journal of the American Geriatric Society, 45, 945-948.

National Alliance for Caregiving, AARP. (1997, June). Family caregiving in the U.S.: findings from a national survey.

Travis, S. S., et al. (2003). Development of the family caregiver medication administration hassles scale. The Gerontologist, 43, 360-368.

Williams, R.D. (1997, September/October). Medication and older adults. FDA Consumer.

Citation

 

What Can I Do This Weekend? Fun Activities To Do with an Alzheimer’s Person

I have found that in dealing with Alzheimers/Dementia residents, you need to try to find out what your residents like and their individual needs, read their history, talk to their families, ask them.

You will find that different activities will work some days and times and others won’t.

The best thing to remember is that the residents are not babies and should be treated with respect at all times. Have fun with them and keep them busy, look out for Sundowning  (restless behavior towards the late afternoon hours ).

Try to keep a consistent program. Enjoy yourself!

These are the most rewarding residents that I have found to work with.

by Gina Salazar, Activity Director, http://www.theactivitydirectorsoffice.com/


Here are a few ideas and sample activity days that you might try:

Sorting

Get items that can be sorted by the residents such as buttons (different sizes and colors), poker chips, balls, bottle caps, forks, spoons, rocks, etc. Have residents sort items out, make sure to always have staff by the resident to watch that they don’t eat items.

Play dough/Clay

Give resident some clay or play dough and have them make something,anything. This is good exercise for their hands.

Book Making

Have your residents go through different magazines and look for a specific item. Examples: birds, ladies, babies, cats, dogs, food, cars etc., then have residents cut the items out and make their own “books.”

What’s in the Bag?

Get a bag and fill it with different items such as cotton balls, sandpaper, leaves, newspaper, felt,q-tips, golf ball, sock, clothespin, etc., then have residents take turns and feel whats in the bag, and tell you what the items are.

Stringing

Get Cheerios, fruit loops, popcorn,or honey combs cereal and some string and let your residents string up a chain to put outside for the birds. This activity is fun because they can eat some while they make their chains.

Cooking Class

Make a fruit salad: get different fruits and have residents cut up with plastic knives, add whipped cream or plain yogurt. Yummy!

BBQ

Get a small/large George Forman Grill and buy some hot dogs and have a BBQ!! The George Forman Grill is great to have for your facility because its small,cleans up easy, and the smell of the cooking item on the grill is wonderful for the residents .Other items to grill: Grilled Cheese Sandwiches,Chicken Breasts for Chicken Salad & Quesidellas.

Other stuff to make

Tuna Salad, Smoothies, Ice cream  Sundaes, Pizza Boats, and Nachos.

Pet Therapy

I have found that if you can have animals at your facility, do it!!! They can be a lot of work but they residents really respond to dogs, cats, rabbits, birds,  turtles and most any animals.And the fun part is that you can get your residents to help with their care, feeding, and walking the dogs.

Ball Toss

Get some residents and a ball and have some fun, place residents in a circle and roll ball towards residents, let them kick it or toss it.

Life Skills

Have residents fold clothes, sweep,dust, vacuum and set dining room tables. Alzheimer’s residents love to help. I have found that if you say ” I am so busy, can you help me fold these clothes Mrs. Johnson?” they will love to do it.

Exercise

Take your residents outside for a walk, always take a caregiver or someone else with you and a cell phone if possible.

Music Appreciation

Music soothes the soul,put on some music any kind of music, and just sit back with your residents and listen, some residents may sing along, some will dance, anything goes. Have fun….

Quick List

  • Clip coupons
  • Sort poker chips
  • Count tickets
  • Rake leaves
  • Use the carpet sweeper
  • Read out loud
  • Bake cookies
  • Look up names in the phone book
  • Read the daily paper out loud
  • Ask someone with a child to visit
  • Listen to Polka music
  • Plant seeds indoors or out
  • Look at family photographs
  • Toss a ball
  • Color pictures
  • Make homemade lemonade
  • Wipe off the table
  • Weed the flower bed
  • Make cream cheese mints
  • Have a spelling bee
  • Read from the Reader’s Digest
  • Fold clothes
  • Have a friend visit with a calm pet
  • Cut pictures out of greeting card
  • Wash silverware
  • Bake homemade bread
  • Sort objects by shape or color
  • Sing old songs
  • “Tell me more” when they talk about a memory
  • Put silverware away
  • Make a Valentine collage
  • Play favorite songs and sing
  • Take a ride
  • Make a cherry pie
  • Read aloud from a magazine
  • Play dreidels
  • Make a basket of socks
  • Take a walk
  • Reminisce about 1st day of school
  • String Cheerios to hang outside for birds
  • Make a fresh fruit salad
  • Sweep the patio
  • Color paper shamrocks green
  • Fold towels
  • Have afternoon tea
  • Remember great inventions
  • Play Pictionary
  • Paint a sheet
  • Cut out paper dolls
  • Identify states and capitals
  • Make a family tree poster
  • Color a picture of our flag
  • Cook hot dogs outside
  • Grow magic rocks
  • Water house plants
  • Reminisce about the first kiss
  • Play horse shoes
  • Dance
  • Sing favorite hymns
  • Make homemade ice cream
  • Plant bulbs for winter blooming
  • Make Christmas cards
  • Sort playing cards by their color
  • Write a letter to a family member
  • Dress in your favorite football team’s color
  • Pop popcorn
  • Name the presidents
  • Give a manicure
  • Make paper butterflies
  • Plant a tree
  • Make a May basket
  • Make homemade applesauce
  • Finish famous sayings
  • Feed the ducks
  • Mold with play dough
  • Look at pictures in National Geographic
  • Put a puzzle together
  • Sand wood
  • Rub in hand lotion
  • Decorate paper placemats
  • Arrange fresh flowers
  • Remember famous people
  • Straighten out underwear drawer
  • Finish Nursery Rhymes
  • Make peanut butter sandwiches
  • Wipe off patio furniture
  • Cut up used paper for scratch paper
  • Take care of fish tank

 

  • Trace and cut out leaves
  • Ask simple trivia questions
  • Finish Bible quotes
  • Paint with string or Q-Tips
  • Cut out pictures from magazines
  • Read classic short stories
  • Put coins in a jar
  • Sew sewing cards
  • Put bird feed out for the birds
  • Clean out a pumpkin
  • Reminisce about a favorite summer
  • Roll yarn into a ball
  • Make a birthday cake

 

Citation

 

How to Have “The Talk” With Your Parents

Words to Use — and Avoid — When Discussing Tough Issues

Wondering how to start the conversation with an aging parent about a sensitive topic? Whether you need to talk about moving, giving up driving, or bringing in help, knowing which words to use and to avoid can improve the odds of moving toward solutions.

“Start by realizing that there are fundamentally two different types of parents,” says Caring.com senior medical editor Ken Robbins, a geriatric psychiatrist at the University of Wisconsin-Madison. “Those with whom you have a relationship in which you can be straightforward and they welcome your ideas and feedback, and those who tend to be more self-conscious or private and don’t welcome this kind of discussion — and may even find it somewhat insulting.”

Even if, in the past, your parent was sharing and receptive, this can change due to aging-related issues such as depression, creeping dementia, lowered self-esteem, or other frustrations. On the other hand, a close-lipped parent may be relieved to talk because he or she is worried, too.

What to say about sensitive subjects can also be tricky because you have different goals. Geriatric communication expert David Solie, author of How to Say It to Seniors, notes that adult children want to solve the problem and move on. Their parents, however, want foremost to maintain a sense of control and dignity in a season marked by many losses. Your goal in how to have “the talk”: Balance both sides’ needs by moving forward slowly and with care.

Plan Ahead
Start a Conversation
Listen and Follow Your Parent’s Cues
Follow Up

Plan Ahead

Do some homework.

Before you say a word, take time to collect some information and research possible solutions, Robbins says. Ultimately, the goal is to problem-solve together through a dialogue with your parent (not to dictate the solution or to convince through arguments). But if you gather facts first, you’ll be able to help in a way that’s better informed and less stressful for everyone.

  • Driving
    Watch your parent drive, looking for signs of an unsafe driver. Research the alternate transportation services in your parent’s area or explore other ways he or she might get around if there’s no personal car.
  • Health issues
    Observe what specific kinds of limitations you’re seeing: Trouble climbing stairs? Cooking? Managing finances? Grooming? Thinking in terms of specifics helps you figure out the best solutions, as well as be able to describe the problem accurately to your doctor (and your parent).
  • In-home care
    Closely observe what activities your parent is having trouble with. Look around the house for concrete signs he or she may not be faring well independently. Start to research sources of in-home care help and costs.
  • Moving or relocating
    Check out a few places on your own so you have concrete examples to talk about. “In general, most people have more difficulty with abstract conversations about assisted living,” Robbins notes. If you live in a different city, you can read reviews about options and make appointments to check them out when you’re there, or consult a local geriatric care manager to get recommendations. Don’t think of it as being “sneaky” — it can be less anxiety-provoking for your parent if you present winnowed options. You can always go through the whole list of choices together if he or she prefers.

Test the waters.

Also before you start the conversation, take time to get a sense of whether your parent is open to it. You can do this by first introducing an unthreatening related topic — by phone before a visit or, if you see your parent often, in a separate visit. This isn’t yet the time for hot-button topics, criticism, or anything contentious.

Stick to the positive and general. Does he or she respond openly? Defensively? Evasively? This will give you important insight into how to proceed.

Say something like:

  • “How’s the house? It must be hard to keep this place in good shape.”
  • “How’s your health? What’s the doctor saying these days?”
  • “How’s the car? Still driving to the city every weekend?”

If your parent sounds interested, say something like:

  • “Is there some way I can be helpful?”
  • “Yes, I can see why that would bother you. Let’s talk about it more when I see you.”

Even if, in a test-the-waters chat, your parent sounds receptive to discussing a tough issue, it’s usually best not to plunge in yet, Robbins says. In this first talk, you just want to float the issue, not problem-solve. You want to show in a respectful way that you can be a helpful, nonjudgmental resource.

If he or she asks you, “What should I do?” say something like:

  • “I’ll be there soon; let’s work on it together then.”
  • “What are you thinking? Give me some time to think about that, too.”

What not to say:

  • “Yup, that’s a problem. I’m going to do X and Y to take care of that for you.”
  • “Sounds like it’s finally time to move to an assisted living place.”
  • “You sound mixed up; I’m going to call your doctor.”

Choose the best messenger.

What if your parent resists any talk about his or her future? Pause to consider whether this conversation is best had by another party. Robbins says that a neutral third party — a doctor, a family friend, a cleric — is often better suited to bring up tricky topics like driving or whether to live independently.

These people can lay the same groundwork, explaining what seems to be wrong and suggesting options for fixing it, without risking a strained relationship in the way an adult child does when a parent is especially resistant or feels manipulated.

Start a Conversation

Set the right tone.

So you’ve done some homework and gotten a sense of how ready (or indifferent) your parent is. How do you take the plunge? Plan to start the conversation on a different day from your test-the-waters chat, in person if possible. This feels less threatening and overbearing, and more natural.

“Don’t get critical the minute you walk in the door. Focus on connecting and having fun,” Robbins says, “while also using this time to observe.” You may be on a mission to resolve the problem, but you’ll have a more ready audience if you first take the time to enjoy one another’s company before diving in.

Try opening with compliments — say something like:

  • “I like how you’ve . . . “
  • “Wow, looks like . . . “

Look for an opening.

The best time to segue into a serious conversation is when your parent brings it up first and asks for your help. Failing that, look for an opportunity when everyone is relaxed. Then take the plunge. Describe what you’re seeing.

If a direct approach feels welcome, say something like:

  • “I see the steps are a problem for you and you almost fell this morning. Is that happening a lot?”
  • “It looks like you’re having trouble getting off the couch, and you seem a little lonely and mixed up when you’re tired. You know they say that people do a lot better where there’s a lot of activity going on, and things to enjoy.”
  • “Mom said you got another ticket, and I noticed the rear fender of the car is bent again. What do you think is going on?”

If an indirect approach feels better, say something like:

  • “I read about this man in the paper who lost control of his car and killed some kids on the sidewalk. He was about your age. It made me think we should consider what’s in your best interests with the car now.”
  • “Lauren’s parents just sold their house on Elm Street and moved to a retirement community — you should have heard her mom rave about not having to do any more yard work.”
  • “Remember Jack, my friend who became a doctor? He told me that his whole family has living wills and I’m thinking we should all do that, too.”

What not to say:

  • “The house was a mess last time I was there. You need a housekeeper.”
  • “Mom, Dad looks awful! We need to go to the doctor when I get there, because you obviously are having trouble looking after him.”
  • “When are you going to give up driving? I heard you had another accident.”

Listen and Follow Your Parent’s Cues

Use reflexive listening, an effective communication technique for difficult conversations. Rephrase what your parent says, as a way of playing back that you understand — making your parent feel supported — and then move the conversation forward.

Say something like:

  • “I hear you saying . . . but it’s also worth thinking about this. . . .”
  • “Yes, I agree that . . . on the other hand. . . .”
  • “I know you’re really worried about. . . . Me, too — but if X doesn’t happen. . . .”
  • “That sounds upsetting for you. . . . Have you thought about. . . ?”

Realize that some older adults can’t articulate the real issue. They may shy from change, perhaps because they fear what it would be like or they lack the energy to deal with it. Often they avoid making a change not because of their own preferences but because they worry about upsetting someone else.

If she’s anxious, say something like:

  • “You’re right that moving is a huge hassle. But we’ll help you sort and pack and you won’t have to do much. We’ll set up your new bedroom to look just like this one.”
  • “I know we’ve always spent the holidays in this house, but we’d love to have Thanksgiving at our house this year. You can still make your special pies there without having to worry about all the getting ready or cleaning up.”
  • “You may call them ugly old grab bars, and that’s what they used to be. But I was reading how universal design is really trendy, attractive home design right now.”

Find ways to be reassuring, talk up the positives, or stress how the solution is good for everyone.

If she’s resistant, say something like:

  • “Bob says he’ll pick you up for Breakfast Club every morning so you won’t have to miss it, and I’ll get your groceries.”
  • “Let’s make a list of pros and cons.”

To help with resistance, focus on the solution. Or, look for the underlying cause. Some people push back for a specific unmentioned reason, which may be emotional, physical, or cognitive. Maybe Dad doesn’t want to talk about moving because he thinks he can’t afford it. Maybe Mom lacks the cognitive ability to realize she can’t live alone. If the person is very resistant, “the most successful person to have the conversation is not usually the adult child,” Robbins says. A family friend or doctor may have better luck.

If she’s interested or agreeable, say something like:

  • “What would it mean to you if you stopped driving/had someone to cook meals/moved?”
  • “What would be the most difficult thing about. . . ?”
  • “Let’s make a list of what you can do about this.”
  • “Let’s think through the pros and cons of each situation.”
  • “Why don’t you try doing X for a couple of months and see how it works for you?”

The goal is to encourage more input and to keep the discussion positive and collaborative.

If you want a parent to consider an assisted living option, Robbins says that with some people, one option is to casually drive by the best place you’ve identified through prior research, and suggest dropping in together to have a look. Better yet if you have a logical pretext — visiting a friend’s parent, stopping to see a “friend” who works there, participating in an activity or meal you’ve prearranged. Make sure it’s a place you’ve prescreened so that you’re pretty sure your parent will find things to like.

Even if there’s not much choice, lay out the options and their pros and cons, strategize solutions to the biggest problems, and let your parent draw his or her own conclusion (assuming dementia is not an issue).

Follow Up

Let it percolate awhile.

Whatever you do, don’t launch an aggressive “sell” on your favorite option the minute you get back home or the next time you talk. Don’t push for making a decision right away. Try not even to hint or nag at first.

What not to say:

  • “I hope you’ve been thinking about our idea of bringing in some help.”
  • “So, selling your car — have you done anything about it yet?”
  • “Wasn’t that place we saw nice? We need to get you out of here!”

Be ready to continue the conversation at any time.

If your parent mentions the conversation at all, use this as a wedge to revisit the matter in a supportive way.

If he or she offers something positive, say something like:

  • “Yes, I could see you being happy there. What do you think it would be like to live there? Let’s think about what we’d have to do to make that happen — I can help.”

If he or she expresses a concern:

Take it as a positive sign that he or she is at least aware of the issue and thinking about it. Go over the facts as well as the solutions again in a nonthreatening way.

If he or she says something negative:

Don’t fall into an argument. Be patient and try to get at the underlying concern. Is it fear of running out of money? Is it a feeling that admitting help is necessary is also admitting failure of some kind? Look for ways to address and support the concern. Maybe you give a weekly cleaning service as a Mother’s Day gift “because I don’t know what else to get you and you deserve to be treated like a queen,” for example.

Test the waters (again).

After some time passes, if your loved one doesn’t give you an opening, you can try bringing up the issue again in a test-the-waters way.

Say something like:

  • “How’s the car?”
  • “What did the doctor say?”

Know when to bring in help.

Total resistance means it’s time for a third party (not the adult child) to try, Robbins says. “This conversation may need to be more direct,” he says. “It may have to include a discussion of the risks and the possibility that if they don’t voluntarily yield, say, their driver’s license or residence — there is a risk that others will take over because of the dangers involved, and then they may have less say in what comes next. They can be told it’s better to work on it voluntarily with someone who loves them and only wants to help them get what they need.”

If the issue is critical and the person still won’t make a safe choice, it may be time to get a family doctor and lawyer involved to evaluate competency and, if appropriate, activate a power of attorney or appoint a guardian who can make safe choices on the person’s behalf. See How to Make Difficult Decisions When Your Loved One’s Mental Capacity Is Failing.

Make it clear that you’re comfortable with any decision.

If your parent is of sound mind but just making decisions that you disagree with (not endangering ones), all you can do is continue the conversation in a positive way. Any choices are ultimately his or hers. You may not like the choice, or you may end up needing to revisit the matter later, but you can’t make the decisions for him or her in that case.

What you can do, Robbins says, is to remain upbeat and supportive, even if you’re frustrated or worried. This keeps you a welcome sounding board as your parent moves, however slowly, toward resolution.

Remember that transitions involve an ongoing dialogue. Difficult as that first conversation about a sensitive topic is, it’s only the first of many you’re likely to have as you strategize your way toward a solution that everyone can feel better about.

Citation

 

People With Alzheimer’s at High Risk of Falls

Falls are a leading cause of broken hips and other serious injuries in the elderly, and those with Alzheimer’s are at particularly high risk of falling. Problems with vision, perception and balance increase as Alzheimer’s advances, making the risk of a fall more likely.

A study from the medical journal Age and Ageing found that seniors with Alzheimer’s are three times more likely to suffer from hip fractures than those without the disease. A broken hip is very painful and requires surgery and hospitalization, which can lead to further disorientation and disability for the person with Alzheimer’s. A broken hip increases the chances that the person with Alzheimer’s may no longer be able to be cared for at home. Furthermore, the study showed, those with Alzheimer’s who suffer a broken hip are more likely to die than those without dementia.

It’s therefore important that persons with Alzheimer’s and those who care for them take measures to prevent falls. Extra attention must also be given to those with Alzheimer’s who are undergoing rehabilitation follow a fall and fracture. Fall prevention is important for caregivers as well, since those who care for a loved one with Alzheimer’s must remain mobile and healthy in order to provide optimal care.

The National Center for Injury Prevention and Control, part of the federal Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, recommends a number of measures to reduce the chance of falls. Since about half of all falls occur in the home, the center recommends a number of steps to make the home safer.

  • Remove things you can trip over, such as papers, books, clothes, and shoes, from stairs and places where you walk.
  • Remove small throw rugs or use double-sided tape to keep the rugs from slipping.
  • Keep items you use often in cabinets you can reach easily without using a step stool.
  • Have grab bars put in next to your toilet and in the tub or shower.
  • Use non-slip mats in the bathtub and on shower floors.
  • Improve the lighting in your home. As you get older, you need brighter lights to see well. Lamp shades or frosted bulbs can reduce glare.
  • Have handrails and lights put in on all staircases.
  • Wear shoes that give good support and have thin non-slip soles. Avoid wearing slippers and athletic shoes with deep treads.

People with Alzheimer’s are particularly likely to have vision or perception problems. Busy patterns, for example, may make it difficult for the person with Alzheimer’s to navigate about a room. Or similar-colored furniture, tables and carpets may be hard to distinguish for the person with Alzheimer’s.

Other steps to reduce the likelihood of falls include getting regular exercise, which can help to improve balance, strength and agility. The ancient martial art of tai chi, for example, has been shown to improve balance and reduce the risk of falls. Ask your doctor about the best type of exercise for you or for someone with Alzheimer’s.  Keep in mind, some people with dementia may have difficulty learning a new kind of exercise.

Many medications, including blood pressure medicines, can cause dizziness when standing, lightheadedness or other problems that increase the risk of falls. If side effects are a problem, ask your doctor about medication alternatives.

Finally, regular vision checks are important at all ages, and particularly in seniors. Eye problems like cataracts, for example, can make it difficult to see and increase the chance of falls, but are easily corrected.

Citation

 

Early Warning Signs: When to Call the Doctor About Alzheimer’s

Are you worried about an older loved one’s memory or behavior? Has your mom been getting lost while running errands? Has your dad started to ask the same questions, over and over?  Signs of the early stages of Alzheimer’s disease aren’t always clear-cut — after all, it can be hard to distinguish them from age-related memory changes.

To help guide you, here are the Alzheimer’s warning signs to watch for, along with advice about seeing a doctor and getting a diagnosis.

Alzheimer Disease Warning Signs

Many people confuse Alzheimer’s disease with dementia. What’s the difference? Alzheimer’s is a disease; dementia is a group of symptoms that include loss of memory, thinking, and reasoning skills. However, dementia isn’t always caused by Alzheimer’s disease; it can be result from other conditions as well.

Although some memory changes may be age-related, memory problems that interfere with daily life are not. According to experts, common early signs of Alzheimer’s disease or other dementias include:

  • Memory loss. Although older memories might seem unaffected, people with dementia might forget recent experiences or important dates or events that interferes with daily life. Anyone can forget some details from a recent event or conversation or recall them later. People with dementia might forget the entire thing.
  • Repetition. People with dementia may repeat stories, sometimes word for word. They may keep asking the same questions, no matter how many times they’re answered.
  • Language problems. We all struggle to remember a word occasionally. People with dementia can have profound problems remembering even basic words. Their way of speaking may become contorted and hard to follow.
  • Personality changes. People with dementia may have sudden mood swings. They might become emotional – upset or angry – for no particular reason. They might become withdrawn or stop doing things they usually enjoy. They could become uncharacteristically suspicious of family members — or trusting of telemarketers.
  • Disorientation and confusion. People with dementia may get lost in places they know very well, like their own neighborhoods. They may have trouble completing basic and familiar tasks, like cooking dinner or shaving.
  • Lack of hygiene. Sometimes this is the most obvious sign of Alzheimer’s disease. People who have dressed smartly every day of their lives might start wearing stained clothing or stop bathing.
  • Odd behavior. We all misplace our keys from time to time. People with Alzheimer’s disease and other dementias are prone to placing objects in odd and wholly inappropriate places. They might put a toothbrush in the fridge or milk in the cabinet under the sink.

If your loved one is exhibiting any of these Alzheimer’s warning signs, don’t panic. Having these symptoms doesn’t mean that your loved one necessarily has Alzheimer’s disease. But you need to schedule an appointment with the doctor for an evaluation.

Seeing the Doctor With Alzheimer’s Disease Concerns

For a first appointment, you can start with your loved one’s primary care provider. Or you might go right to a specialist, like a psychiatrist or a neurologist. Over time, you may have a number of experts involved in your loved one’s care.

Unfortunately, there’s no definitive test for Alzheimer’s disease. So doctors can use a number of different techniques to come up with a diagnosis. In addition to a typical physical exam and blood and urine tests, these could include:

  • Mental status tests. The doctor may ask a series of questions that assess a person’s mental function. They test a person’s short-term memory, ability to follow instructions, and problem-solving skills. Specific tests include the mini-mental state exam (MMSE) and the “mini-cog.”
  • Neurological exams. In checking for signs of Alzheimer’s, doctor will also check your loved one’s neurological function, including speech, balance, coordination, and reflexes.
  • Imaging tests. CT scans, MRIs, and PET scans might be helpful in making a diagnosis. For example, they may rule out other causes for the symptoms — like tumors or strokes.

Make sure to do your part. The doctor will need some basic information from you, so go in prepared with details about:

  • The Alzheimer’s symptoms you’ve noticed and when they began.
  • Other health conditions your loved one has.
  • The daily medications she uses, including supplements and alternative treatments.
  • Your loved one’s diet and alcohol use.
  • Any important changes in your loved one’s life — like retirement, a recent move, or the death of a spouse.

Because Alzheimer’s warning signs may be confused with changes that can come with old age, its diagnosis may not be clear-cut.

If you’re not satisfied with the doctor’s assessment, get a second opinion. Alzheimer’s disease can go on a long time, and during those years you’ll need to work closely with a doctor. It’s key that you find a caring, sympathetic healthcare professional you trust.

Don’t Ignore Alzheimer’s Warning Signs

Of course, you might not want to see a doctor yet. You might want to wait and see if things get worse. Many people put off consulting an expert for years – long after they’ve noticed obvious symptoms of Alzheimer’s disease. Why?

  • People worry that their loved ones will be offended or angry if they mention their memory problems.
  • Considering that Alzheimer’s disease has no cure, people might assume that there’s no point in rushing off to get the bad news.
  • Deep down, people don’t want to admit to themselves that something might be wrong.

These are all very understandable, very human reasons to put off seeing an expert. But if you suspect your loved one might have Alzheimer’s, you need to see a doctor soon. Here’s why.

  • Your loved one may not have Alzheimer’s disease. Don’t assume the worst. Even if your love one has dementia, it might not be Alzheimer’s. Other conditions can cause dementia or similar symptoms. They include vitamin deficiencies,thyroid problems, depression, drug interactions, and alcohol abuse. Many of these conditions are treatable. Putting off a trip to the doctor could leave your loved one suffering pointlessly.
  • The sooner Alzheimer’s disease is diagnosed, the sooner you can get treatment. Alzheimer’s disease isn’t curable, but it is treatable. Drugs can help slow down the progression of Alzheimer’s symptoms for a limited time. Your loved one may also be eligible for clinical trials, in which new, cutting-edge Alzheimer’s treatments are available.
  • The sooner Alzheimer’s disease is diagnosed, the sooner you can plan for it. Accepting that a loved one has Alzheimer’s is terribly difficult. But the sooner you do, the better off you are. The earlier you catch it, the more time you’ll have to learn about the condition and prepare for what’s ahead.

For your loved one’s sake — and for your own — don’t ignore the possible warnings signs of Alzheimer’s disease. Don’t wait until there’s a crisis before you see a doctor. If you have any concerns about your loved one’s memory or behavior, schedule an evaluation now.

Citation

Lifestyle Changes May Prevent Alzheimer’s

Up to half of Alzheimer’s cases worldwide could be prevented through lifestyle changes and treatment of chronic medical conditions such as diabetes, researchers report.

A modest reduction in seven modifiable risk factors for dementia, including smoking, obesity, sedentary lifestyles, and midlife high blood pressure, could have a huge impact, says Deborah Barnes, PhD, associate professor of psychiatry at the University of California, San Francisco.

Even a 25% reduction in the seven risk factors, which also include depression, diabetes, and low education, could prevent 3 million cases of Alzheimer’s disease worldwide and nearly half a million in the U.S. alone, she tells WebMD.

The number of Alzheimer’s cases around the world is expected to triple to 106 million by 2050, Barnes says. With no effective treatment to reverse the course of the relentless disease, prevention is key, she says.

The findings were presented here at the Alzheimer’s Association International Conference and published online by the journal Lancet Neurology.

Using data from previously published studies, the researchers first identified the seven most common risk factors for Alzheimer’s disease, which together account for up to half of the 35 million cases of Alzheimer’s worldwide.

Assuming a causal relationship between each risk factor and dementia, the researchers calculated just how strongly each factor affects risk. Then they took into account the total number of people affected by each risk factor, both worldwide and in the U.S. alone.

All seven factors increase the risk of Alzheimer’s to a similar degree, by about 80% to 90%, the study showed. But their prevalence varied widely.

Worldwide, low education — specifically, not finishing secondary school — had the biggest impact on Alzheimer’s cases, accounting for 19% of cases.

“Education is probably a very weak proxy for lifelong cognitive activities, but we had to make do with the data we had,” Barnes says.

While she is not suggesting people go back to school at age 70 (although some do), Barnes say that challenging the mind with crossword puzzles and other mental activities may help to prevent Alzheimer’s.

Another 14% of cases worldwide were attributed to smoking, 13% to physical inactivity, 10% to depression, 5% to midlife hypertension, 2% to diabetes, and 2% to obesity.

In the U.S., however, lack of exercise was the No. 1 problem, contributing to 21% of preventable cases of Alzheimer’s disease.

Sedentary lives contribute to three of the other risk factors — diabetes, obesity, and hypertension, Barnes says.

Depression had the second biggest impact on Alzheimer’s cases in the U.S., accounting for 15% of cases, followed by smoking, at 11%. Also, 8% of cases were attributable to midlife hypertension, 7% to midlife obesity, 7% to low education, and 3% to diabetes.

The major limitation of the study was the central assumption that the seven risk factors in the analysis cause Alzheimer’s, which has not been proven. Also unknown is whether removal of a risk factor would result in fewer cases of dementia.

Asked if setting up programs to help people change their lifestyles would be prohibitively expensive, Barnes says, “You couldn’t put a price on it. But it gives us a little bit of hope about things we could do now [to thwart] the epidemic that is coming our way.”

Anti-smoking campaigns with “edgy ads that appeal to kids” have had a huge impact in keeping youngsters from lighting up, Barnes adds.

Ronald Peterson, MD, director of the Mayo Alzheimer’s Disease Research Center at the Mayo Clinic in Rochester, Minn., says, “Assuming each risk factor is causal, and we don’t know that, only that there is an association, the point [of the study] is well taken.

“If we ratchet down some of the risk factors, we will have an impact [on Alzheimer's disease]. I don’t think we’ll cut cases by 50%, but we don’t have to be passive either,” he tells WebMD.

Citation

 

Elder Care for Alzheimer’s: Choosing a Provider

Elder care, or adult care, can provide an opportunity for your loved one with Alzheimer’s to receive assistance and therapeutic activities in a group setting while giving you a temporary break from caregiving. In the U.S. you can locate elder care services available in your area by using the Department of Health and Human Services’ Eldercare Locator website. This website provides you contact information for your state or local Area Agency on Aging (AAA). The AAA will connect you with someone who will help guide you to specific elder care service providers.

Determine your needs
When considering elder care providers, evaluate what services your loved one needs:

  • Socialization
  • Supervision
  • Counseling
  • Exercise
  • Physical therapy
  • Medical care
  • Medication management
  • Meals

If you’re choosing among more than one provider, some additional considerations are:

  • Location. How convenient is it?
  • Hours. What are drop-off and pick-up times?
  • Costs. Often, costs are out-of-pocket, but some long term care insurance plans may cover this type of care.

Ensuring quality care
Entrusting your loved one to someone else’s care can be difficult. Some things you’ll want to consider to help ensure he or she is getting the best care possible are:

  • Ask for references. Ask the center for references, and talk to two or three current residents and their families.
  • Do some research. Ask the AAA representative whether they have any specific information on the facility you’re considering.
  • Ask lots of questions. On a first visit to a potential facility, walk through and ask a lot of questions, such as about services and staff training. What are the center’s staffing ratios? On average, adult care providers have a ratio of one staff member for six care recipients. The National Adult Day Services Association has a site-visit question checklist you can print and take with you.
  • Try it out. When you think you have decided on a center, try it out. Be aware that it may take some time for your loved one to feel comfortable in the new surroundings.
Citation

 

What You Can Expect From a Great Assisted Living Community

How will you find a good assisted living community for yourself or your loved one? A place that’s affordable and safe, with excellent care, warm surroundings, and a friendly staff?

With more than 31,000 senior care facilities across the country, the good news is that there are lots of choices. The less-than-good news is that there are lots of choices! How do you begin your search? What do you look for — and how do you know when you’ve found it?

Assisted living facilities have much to offer the aging population. From yoga classes to nature trails, movie nights to computer and painting classes, seniors will find something that entices them out of their apartments and into the many gathering places most facilities provide.

But it’s not the indoor heated pools or fitness rooms that make for a good assisted living community — it’s when your loved one knows she belongs. It’s when a staff member notices that something just isn’t right and your loved one receives prompt attention. It’s when other residents smile when they see her step into the dining room, or when you, the family member, know you can stop by at any time.

From coast to coast, in big cities and small towns and everything in between, there are some assisted living communities that truly shine. These are establishments that have inspired top-notch reviews from residents, experts, and families just like yours. These are the best of the best — the Caring Stars of 2013.

Even though these providers are all over the country, it turns out that they have some important things in common. Here, we present five trends among Caring Star winners — qualities that communities near you should have, too.

1. A clean, safe place where needs (big and small) are addressed promptly: “I feel heard.”

Making sure your loved one is safe and receives prompt attention trumps the list. The best communities draw top-quality staff and keep communication open. In the words of one caregiver, they’re “easy to contact and never hesitate to call if something needs to be discussed.”

It’s when everyone — the director, the kitchen staff, the care aides and nurses — goes out of their way and takes the time to do the little things that matter so much. Places where food requests are accommodated or that have “a chef who knows how to make the food sing.” Places where, as one family member said, the staff is “considerate and dependable, no matter when I call.”

2. Homey touches: “It feels like home.”

No one wants to feel like they’re living in a hospital, and they don’t have to. Assisted living communities have come a long way. They feature special touches, such as manicured grounds with flower beds, gazebos and ponds, inviting décor, and “spacious, well-maintained living spaces.” Where living spaces reflect residents’ personalities — like the community where “residents had several of their personal belongings displayed, such as photographs and figurines.” “Placing a loved one here will help me sleep at night,” one visitor said of a two-time five-star community in his area.

3. A trustworthy staff and active residents: “It feels like family.”

Trusting that your loved one is receiving good care is vital, and there’s nothing like being greeted by name. These are the places where “you can feel the love when you walk in the door.” It’s also important that your loved one find new friendships. “Several residents stopped and talked to us. It was nice to know that my grandma wouldn’t have a problem meeting people” is how one granddaughter expressed it.

4. Great amenities: “I feel like I’m on vacation.”

You’re in for treat when it comes to amenities. Assisted living communities now offer video, audio, and book libraries; computer rooms; and classes on everything from digital photography to scrapbooking. If you’re into fitness, you can swim, golf, and even take a “laughing yoga” class. And don’t think you’re stuck in one place: After visiting a friend at her community, one reader said, “We walked the trails that lead to the park in the back. We ate lunch in the dining area (food was great) . . . then took the facility bus ride half a mile down to the mall for shopping.”

You’re likely to find whatever you’re interested in, whether it’s church services; game nights; a 24-hour café offering beverages and light snacks; or easy access to nearby shopping, museums, music venues, and restaurants.

5. Family-friendly atmosphere: “I feel like my family and friends are always welcome.”

It’s tough to place your loved one in a care community, so finding one that’s family-friendly helps assure you that your loved one will stay connected. “Family involvement is encouraged, and there are special family nights several times during the year, with live music, festive decorations, and a beautiful buffet,” one family member said of her experience with a loved one’s assisted living community. Life is sweeter when you’re able to invite a friend for lunch, and when your grandchildren and even the great-grands get to visit often. Some assisted living facilities send out invitations to special events and celebrations; you can even reserve a room for birthdays and other important gatherings.

Before choosing an assisted living community, gather as much information as you can. Be sure to go online and see if there are Caring Stars in your area, and read reviews for other communities as well. Then schedule a few tours of your top selections. Print out a copy of the Caring Checklist for evaluating assisted living providers so you can make notes as you go.

While you’re there, talk to the staff (include a chat with someone from the kitchen staff, care aides, the activities director, and others) and be sure to meet a few residents and their visitors. Ask for a chance to enjoy a meal in the dining hall.

And, above all else, don’t hesitate to ask each community: “How many of these Caring Stars trends are you getting right?”

Citation