Helpful Caregiving Tips for the Holidays

(BrightFocus Foundation) No matter the time of year, caring for someone with Alzheimer’s requires an understanding of the one for whom we care.  As their caregiver, you know them well—the rhythm of their day, what they like, what calms or upsets them.  This understanding is all very important in managing their daily life.  But the holiday season is filled with events that happen just once a year, which can be exciting and heartwarming for many, or can be—for one with Alzheimer’s or other forms of dementia—confusing, over-stimulating and agitating.

With parties, large family gatherings, and the excitement of preparation, we as caregivers will be more successful in our role if we are ready with a plan for our loved one.  Pre-planning for the holidays, along with modifying our expectations and traditions, can make a huge difference for our loved one, as well as for us as caregivers.

Maybe We Don’t Need to Make So Many Cookies This Year

Is one of your traditions baking lots of cookies during the weeks leading up to the holidays?  Weekend afternoons or late nights, dozens and dozens of cookies, using many old, family recipes?  Those were great times.  But, as good as the memories are, maybe this year, extreme cookie baking is one area to cut back.  It just may be better to bake a few dozen of one or two favorite recipes.

If your care recipient can recall one or two favorites, bake those.  Where possible, include them in the cookie baking process.  Have a good time with it.  If they become unable to finish the whole process, consider that they probably had a great time and let them stop there.  The process is more important than the result.

Cookie baking is just an example of where we may need to modify our expectations of an outcome.  Holiday parties, big family gatherings, church services, shopping, are a few other areas.  And they all, in one way or another, present situations that just may be too much for one with Alzheimer’s.  Before embarking on any of these, think about how much would be enough for your care recipient.  Overall, remember:

  • Only do what you and they can manage, and be okay with that.
  • Choose the traditions and activities that are the most important.  Leave out the rest.
  • Hosting a party?  Maybe a small party will do instead of the huge event from years past.  Opt for catered or take out to round out the food.  Or, consider hosting an event that is potluck.
  • Where possible, have a place where your loved one can take a break from the festivities to rest.
  • If having any visitors during the holiday season, try to keep it to two or three at a time.  Too many at one time can be overwhelming.
  • What is their best time of day?  Schedule any visitors for that time.

Some Seasonal Safety Concerns

Don’t forget a couple of safety matters.  Keep the lighted candles out of the house, as well as the decorations that may be mistaken for edible food.

What About You?

Through it all, remember to take care of you and your holiday too.  To make it a magical season, build some of your own favorite traditions into the season.  It may mean doing it without your care recipient, but either way, be sure you give yourself the gift of the season.  If needed, find someone who can cover for you as caregiver, whether it is for an afternoon or evening, or a few days.

Most important, it is the spirit of togetherness and fun that family and friends value and cherish from year to year.  Make sure you are having fun.  That is what you, your family, and your care recipient, needs most.

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Kathleen S. Allen, LCSW, LICSW, C-ASWCM
Eldercare Consultant/Geriatric Care Manager
Senior Care Management Services, LLC

http://www.brightfocus.org/alzheimers/brightfocus-insights/alzheimers-caregiving-during-the-holidays-making-the-season-bright.html?utm_source=eAlert&utm_medium=email&utm_campaign=ADR_eAlert-AD-Awarness-Month

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Alzheimer’s Association Caregiver Resources Can Help During the Holidays

(Alzheimer’s Association) The Alzheimer’s Association 24/7 Helpline provides reliable information and support to all those who need assistance. Call us toll-free anytime day or night at 1.800.272.3900.

Our 24/7 Helpline serves people with memory loss, caregivers, health care professionals and the public.

Our highly trained and knowledgeable staff can help you with:

  • Understanding memory loss, dementia and Alzheimer’s
  • Medications and other treatment options
  • General information about aging and brain health
  • Skills to provide quality care and to find the best care from professionals
  • Legal, financial and living-arrangement decisions

Our 24/7 Helpline also features:

  • Confidential care consultation provided by master’s level clinicians who can help with decision-making support, crisis assistance and education on issues families face every day
  • Help in a caller’s preferred language using our translation service that features over 170 languages and dialects
  • Referrals to local community programs, services and ongoing support

Call us 24/7: 1.800.272.3900
TDD: 1.866.403.3073

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Keeping the Happy in Holidays for Families Living with Alzheimer’s

(Alzheimer’s Association) For families living with Alzheimer’s and other forms of dementia, the holidays can sometimes be less than happy and instead filled with anxiety and stress. When adult children travel to visit older parents there are often changes that have been occurring over the time apart. Things like short term memory may be the first symptoms to appear however, judgment, speech, balance and even personality changes may also increase in between visits.

If some family members live nearby and interact with mom and dad regularly the changes may not seem so significant as for family who isn’t around quite as often. The holidays also bring increased anxiety with larger crowds to serve at meal times, more planning and activities spent together, loud conversations and a desire to maintain harmony at any cost.

For a mom with Alzheimer’s who has always taken on meal planning and preparation, the holidays may simply prove to be too overwhelming. As the disease steals the ability to perform daily tasks, doing the grocery shopping, following a recipe or even setting the table may be too complicated with too many steps to remember and follow. For dads who traditionally host the viewing of the holiday football game, crowds of people all talking at once may cause anxiety and even anger as the ability to keep track of conversations decreases.

There are a number of things families can do if they are aware of changes before descending on mom and dad for the holidays. Sharing with friends who might stop by can also help eliminate stress and worry about whether a visit might go well:

Tips to enhance communication with person who has dementia:

  • Always approach the person from the front to say hello or hold a conversation
  • Use name badges for all guests so no one has to remember names and ask everyone to introduce themselves even if it seems silly. “Hi Grandpa, it’s Billy”
  • Address the person with dementia by name or nickname. They may not always remember they are Dad, Uncle, or Aunt.
  • Maintain eye contact
  • Be patient and encourage the person to continue to express themselves even if it’s hard to understand or it takes a long time
  • Avoid criticizing, correcting, and arguing. Be prepared to accept the reality of the person with dementia, whether that is today or 20 years ago on the farm. Who benefits by correcting the person with dementia? Why remind them someone has died if they don’t remember?
  • Be calm and supportive
  • Avoid using negative statements and quizzing (e.g., “You know who that is, don’t you?”)
  • Use short, simple, and familiar words but don’t speak to an adult using childish, cutesy phrases
  • Avoid talking about the person as if he/she weren’t there
  • Try not to use phrases like “remember that?” for recent memories instead reminisce about general family memories. Do we always have pumpkin pie? Instead of “remember that Hanukah when we all went to the cabin?”
  • Instead of television or games, pull out family albums and let the person with dementia share stories and memories

Tips for success at meal time:

  • Suggest a grandchild help out in the kitchen as a way to practice following a recipe and measurement skills
  • Have everyone pick a job to do, even if this is a change for the family who always relied on mom to do everything in preparation for the big meal
  • Try new recipes with foods that are easy to eat, more finger foods and less cutting up of meat
  • Use solid color plates so food can be more easily seen and not compete with flower patterns
  • Offer the role of carving to a new or younger family member as a way to pass the torch while keeping sharp knives out of the hands of someone with dementia
  • Offer sparkling water, non alcoholic wine and beer to all guests. Alcohol is not a good mix with dementia medications, depression and mood swings.
  • Help keep clothes clean and maintain dignity for the person with dementia by suggesting everyone tuck a napkin into their shirt or blouse.

Caregiving is a 24/7 job. The Alzheimer’s Association describes caregiving as the 36 hour day. The responsibility is non-stop.

Caregivers are often managing the household budget, cleaning, cooking, doing laundry, taking care of the children if the person has Younger Onset Alzheimer’s, personal care and hygiene for the person with dementia as well as maintaining their sense of comfort, safety and security, and even sometimes, the caregiver is juggling care with a full time job.

It is exhausting and without a break and/or support, the caregiver will feel the effects physically as well as emotionally. When visitors come from out of town there are many ways they can assist the caregiver.

Tips for helping caregivers:

  • Visitors from out of town can provide much needed respite for the daily caregiver
  • Offer to sit and visit so the caregiver can grocery shop without a sense of vigilance
  • Give the gift of a night out with movie tickets or a sit down dinner at a local restaurant
  • Offer to run errands to the store, the pharmacy, the hardware store
  • Home repair and gardening may have become lesser priorities, offer to rake, clean up, or do simple repairs the caregiver is unable or doesn’t have the time for
  • Take the person with dementia out for coffee or to the hairdresser so the caregiver can get things done at home or simply sit and enjoy the quiet without having to caregive
  • Ask how the caregiver is doing not just the person with the disease
  • Consider using an online scheduling program for helpers like Lotsa Helping Hands

If concerns arise after a visit with family over the holidays, start by talking with siblings. If it’s possible, try and get consensus about what everyone experienced to see if concerns are shared. If there are conflicting opinions, the Alzheimer’s Association can help sort things out. Additionally scheduling a visit with mom or dad’s family doctor to talk together about concerns might be helpful.

There might be medication interactions or vitamin B deficiencies that are contributing to memory issues without signs of dementia so ruling out what might be causing concerns is the best first step. Suggesting a visit to the doctor’s office could actually put mom or dad’s own mind at ease as there are bound to be concerns they haven’t shared with family and friends.

While the holidays should be a time of celebration and being together with friends and family, a little planning ahead may help relieve stress and anxiety for everyone, especially for the person who is seeing things slowly change as the disease progresses. For more tips and support contact the Alzheimer’s Association.

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Caregivers, Take Good Care of Yourself During Holidays

(Mayo Clinic with Angela Lunde) With the holiday season well under way, you can find a great deal of information on the web about ways to manage the season when you have a loved one with dementia, including on this site.

The truth though is that many of us enter the holiday season with a mixed bag of memories and emotions. Rituals, familiar food and smells, songs and decorations all stimulate memories of people and holidays past. The season may loom particularly heavy for those who have a loved one with Alzheimer’s.

It’s common to experience feelings of loss for “the way things used to be,” or to have a sense of guilt about what we think we should do, or how we think we should feel. If you followed my blog last year at this time, you may recall the themes I advocate most during the holidays: First, adjust your expectations, and second keep it simple. I want to add one more this year — take good care of yourself.

From now until the end of the year, consider making a plan to take at least 15 minutes a day to turn your attention inward and focus your mind on the present moment — easier said than done I know. Yet, studies have shown that meditation or mindfulness can be helpful in stopping ruminations over things that cause stress (such as caregiving for someone with a dementing illness and/or the holidays). A meditation practice helps people keep from dwelling on negative thoughts, gives you a mental break and a way to gain perspective and a greater sense of contentment.

Set aside 15 minutes when you are least likely to be interrupted. You may simply sit on the floor or in a comfortable chair with your eyes closed and focus on your breath (noting the sounds, temperature and rhythm) or listen to calming music. You could take a bath in a candlelit room or take a walk outdoors — anything to settle the mind from thoughts of the past and future. I heard someone once refer to meditation for caregivers as “refueling your caring center.”

Please share your thoughts. Peaceful holidays to all.

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Angela Lunde

http://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/alzheimers-disease/expert-blog/alz

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How to Keep an Eye Out for Signs of Alzheimer’s During the Holidays

(TheHuffingtonPost) The holiday season is a great time for families to come together and spend quality time with one another. However, if you have older adults in your family, this time of the year can also be a great time to look for the signs of Alzheimer’s disease developing.

While no one ever wants anyone in their family to have issues with Alzheimer’s disease, it is a very common condition that impacts millions of adults every year. The earlier you are able to detect signs of Alzheimer’s, the easier this condition can be to handle and the more proactive you and your loved one can be about handling this disease.

There is more family time spent during the holiday than during any other time of the year. Also, many times, if you have gone without seeing a loved one for several months, it can be easier to notice some of the signs and symptoms associated with Alzheimer’s disease.

Here are the 10 early detection signs of Alzheimer’s, as determined by the Alzheimer’s Association. Keep these warning sings in the back of your mind during the holidays so you can help a friend, family member or loved one notice an issue if it is developing.

The 10 Early Detection Signs of Alzheimer’s Disease

  • Changes in personality or mood
  • Being withdrawn from social activities or work activities
  • A decrease in judgment
  • Issues with being able to retrace steps or frequently misplacing things
  • Issues with speaking or writing certain works
  • Difficulty in understanding visual images or struggles with spatial relationships
  • Easy confusion regarding time and place
  • Challenges in completing what are normally familiar tasks
  • Issues with planning or difficulties with solving problem
  • Memory loss that can disrupt everyday life

These are all small warning signs that Alzheimer’s may be forming. While these symptoms do not necessarily mean someone has Alzheimer’s disease, this may let you know that you need to monitor your loved one more, or encourage them to visit their health care provider. There are also many national resources that can help people learn more about Alzheimer’s so that you can get a better idea of whether or not this may be something your loved one is struggling with.

Finding these early warning signs in a loved one is a great way to help them and to start recognizing a potential issue early one. This holiday, remember the warning signs as you interact with your loved ones during this special time of the year.

Citation

Eric J. Hall, President & CEO of Healthcare Chaplaincy, Managing Partner, Alzheimer’s Care Specialists

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/eric-j-hall/alzheimers_b_4442269.html

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A Holiday Message: Embracing Grief Can Help You Find the Light of Love

(Mayo Clinic with Angela Lunde) For the most part, I love the holidays — gathering with family, sharing food and gifts and being mindful of our blessings.

Yet, I know this is also a time when grief can dwell more intensely in our hearts. It’s important to address grief because it’s such a big part of our lives. And I’m not just talking about sadness. Grief can disguise itself as anger, fear, resentment or a sense of profound helplessness.

We may think we need to chase away grief and other negative thoughts and feelings from our hearts and minds and be more “joyful”. I ask you though to consider embracing whatever you are feeling and experiencing — both negative and positive feelings need attention and belong in the same reality.

By acknowledging and even embracing our grief we begin to remove some of the protective layers that frequently mask the core of who we truly are. When this uncovering happens, there, at our deepest center is a light. A light I call love.

Grief is an organic emotion that at its core is an expression of love. If we love well, there will be grief. Accepting this may open up a bit more space in our hearts for joy. May peace and joy be within each of you this holiday season.

“The wound is the place where the Light enters you.”
— Persian poet Rumi

Citation

http://www.mayoclinic.com/health/alzheimers-holiday-message/MY02622/?utm_source=newsletter&utm_medium=email&utm_campaign=alzheimers-caregiving&pubDate=12/12/2013

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Memory Loss May First Be Noticed During Holiday Family Time

(HealthCentral) The holidays are here. The festivities, the camaraderie, the food! But if you are like me and my brother, you could find the holidays can quickly become disconcerting when you live at a distance from a loved one and return home to find a loved one exhibiting memory issues that you had never seen before.  That was increasingly our experience about a decade ago.

My father had started alerting both my brother and I that Mom was having some memory issues in 2002, but we chalked that up to aging.  We were wrong! Mom had mild cognitive impairment and we just kept missing signs over the next three years that Mom was struggling with something worse.

Using the list of warning signs provided by the Alzheimer’s Association, I’d like to offer some our family’s history in order to help others who might face similar surprises when they get home.

1.    Memory loss that disrupts daily life. Mom wouldn’t let Dad take over managing her prescriptions. She increasingly mismanaged her medications during this period, causing her to often have to go to the emergency room due to major breathing issues caused by her chronic obstructive pulmonary disease.

2.    Challenges in planning and solving problems. One time when Dad had to suddenly be hospitalized, Mom drove herself back home. She called me to tell me what the situation was (and told me that she had to call the fire department because she couldn’t get into their house). She was determined to go back to the hospital to spend the night, but had not thought about packing her oxygen (which she needed 24/7) and other medications. I also asked her what she was planning to do with their dog; she told me that she would just leave the dog outside – not thinking about the fact that the forecast put the temperature that night into the low 20s where they lived. Fortunately, Dad was released just a little bit later so she was able to remain at home – and the dog remained inside.

3.    Difficulty completing familiar tasks at home, at work or at leisure. I remember Mom forgetting how to use the car’s automatic unlock function on her key ring while she was out shopping. She also could not remember how to use the car key to unlock the door. She had to ask someone at the store to come out and help her open her car up.

4.    Confusion with time or place. Mom got to the point where she couldn’t member what city she was in, especially when she travelled and was in a hotel in a different city. Breaking a routine really messed her up.

5.    Trouble understanding visual and spatial relationships. One evening, Mom thought there was a gap between the window frame and my home’s structure and brought it to my attention because she was afraid hot air would come in. I assured her that what she was seeing was the gap between the window screen that wasn’t well placed into the window and that otherwise, the house was well sealed.

6.    New problems with words in speaking or writing. Mom struggled with finding words to use and would lose her train of thought in a conversation. She also rarely was writing anything other than her name.

7.    Misplacing things and losing the ability to replace steps. Mom increasingly lost a variety of things, ranging from remote controls to glasses. It turns out that she started “storing” everything in tissue boxes.

8.    Decreased or poor judgment. Mom, who was not a fashion shopaholic, would go out shopping on a regular basis and end up buying the same outfit over and over and over again. When we cleared out her closet, we found out that she had purchased 7-8 of the same outfits, all in the same size.

9.    Withdrawal from work or social activities. Mom refused to go out to lunch with her girlfriends, even though I bought her a gift card to a local restaurant so she could treat them. She said they just led busy lives and she didn’t want to interrupt.

10.    Changes in mood and personality. Mom regularly lost her normal equilibrium and became blindingly angry at the smallest comment. For a long period, her rage was at my father, but I finally experienced it when she and I had a really minor tiff over dusting a table.

Citation

By Dorian Martin, Health Guide

http://www.healthcentral.com/alzheimers/c/727598/164567/memory-holiday-family/?ic=4027

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Time for a Mental Health Break: Your Love in Six Words

(Washington Post) We called for six-word love stories, and you answered in droves. More than 300 exclamations and lamentations of love arrived just in time for Valentine’s Day. Read on.

  • Craigs List. True love. Who knew?
  • Why did I stay for decades?
  • Submit to passion, never go back.
  • Lover breaks mold, none can compare.
  • Mid-life brings love without fear.
  • Past gone, future unknown, present bliss.
  • Never too late to find love.
  • Early morning love, thanks, Lou Rawls.
  • Marriage over. Finding myself! Love awaits?
  • Relax, let love enter your heart.
  • He ignites passion never known before.
  • Blue eyes see into my soul.
  • Serendipity, luck, karma, brought us together.
  • Spooning, warm breath on my neck.
  • Much better than last Valentine’s Day.
  • I love her forever, for naught
  • “Ding Dong! Here we go again.”
  • Romania, swoon; Austria, love; DC, heartbreak.
  • You were never that cute anyways.
  • “Still waiting for honeymoon to end”
  • “Marriage is a neverending slumber party”
  • My lover doesn’t live here.
  • “Money didn’t impress. Want you broke.”
  • No husband. No children. No regrets.
  • Long distance love. Never taken seriously.
  • Married twice. Same over. Wonderful kids.
  • Fell in love. Fell out. Ouch.
  • Sleeping together, no euphemism, deep, restful.
  • He cooks, loves wine, lucky me.
  • He is more than I expected.
  • One after another. Who’s next? Me!
  • Honey, Love The One You’re With…
  • “Love yourself first. Others will follow!”
  • Face in fantasies isn’t my husband’s.
  • Yes, sweetie, forever is long enough.
  • In love still happy twenty years
  • Recently orphaned, recently rich, accepting applications.
  • Thirty years. Two kids. Still smitten.
  • Her husband died. Now screwing mine.
  • He gets me like no one else
  • Many men. Lone love. Still seeking.
  • My Dad always send me flowers.
  • “And people wonder why I drink!”
  • My boyfriend’s wife phoned my husband.
  • A sanguine septuagenarian, happy at last.
  • One Ceremony. Twenty-five Anniversaries. True Commitment.
  • ” Love changes life; life changes love”
  • I love him. He’s oblivious. AUGH!
  • Breakup scary. Freedom disconcerting. Dating exciting.
  • Wanted: Mr. Right. Finding: Mr. Left
  • Looking for a soulmate, finding myself.
  • Erectile dysfunction; les miserables; goodbye Charlie
  • Breast Cancer diagnosis. Then he left.
  • My true love, solitariness, requires her.
  • My insanity, her sanity, our alchemy.
  • I always run. No one left.
  • Marriage snuffed out passion. Singlehood: reawakened.
  • “that was more frantic than tantric”
  • a lovely kiss, a secret touch
  • Which first? love? marriage? baby carriage?
  • Blind Date. Soulmates. Married 65 years.
  • Ban torture now; match dot com
  • Little boy. Little toy. No joy.
  • Shy soulmates. Final semester. Last chance.
  • Hope. Disappointment. Hope. Disappointment. Stupid me.
  • Two husbands. Two children. Then alone.
  • Learning that love comes from within.
  • A spark. A romance. A life.
  • Passionless for years. Ecstatic it’s over.
  • “Broken heart doesn’t mean broken girl.”
  • “Perhaps too socially lubricated by whiskey.”
  • Up against the wall?? Faked! Ha!”
  • You’re Alaska’s most wasted resource. Shame.”
  • Best hook-up turned true love ever!
  • “Sometimes, dubiously in love. Always loves.”
  • Better second time around – NOT!
  • He lied. I denied. Shattered lives.
  • candy. chocolate. flowers. trite love everywhere.
  • Taking risks. Painfully curious Incest sucks
  • I think I love you. Fear.
  • She came, I loved, he conquered.
  • He left, she wrote, I discarded.
  • I. Hate. Valentine’s. Day. So. Stupid.
  • Dumped. Life shattered. Square one.
  • He likes me. He loves her.
  • We said no attachments. I lied.
  • My parents worry I’ll never marry.
  • Found soul – in wounds you carry.
  • Age 47: learned love from lust.
  • Sushi. Coffee. Tangysweet. Single Dupont.
  • My dates are my books.
  • Yup. I’m in love. With who?
  • No hesitation. No limit. No doubt.
  • Horoscope: You will find love. YES!
  • New love found: protected heart revealed
  • Life, Love, Food, Wine, ALL FINE!
  • All my biggest mistakes were women.
  • Champagne and strawberries for one.
  • At least I got the dog.
  • Married. No Kids. One Dog. Bliss.
  • Hate Wedding Planning. Want to Elope.
  • No Tools Required: Heartbreak finally repaired.
  • I’m yours. You’re mine. So what?
  • True love appears when least expected.
  • She may change, he probably won’t.
  • Kissed in 2008; Married in 2009!
  • His most romantic words:”I’ll cook!”
  • 30th Reunion Northwestern HS 1979
  • Love: it can happen, but rarely.
  • many miles away and still trying.
  • Irrational, inconvenient, irresistible all-consuming love.
  • narcissist love: you’ll always be miserable
  • Wow! It IS all about you!
  • Wife wants “negative two” kids? Run.
  • A wedding? No way! Prop 8.
  • Germanic, Adonic, hedonic Ivy-league prof. uberdisaster.
  • “You’re so lucky.” It’s not luck.
  • Secret history. no mystery. between two
  • He promised he would never run…
  • You even make fixing toilets fun.
  • She was experienced unlike yours truly.
  • Forgotten, but not gone.
  • I’m no longer desperate..completely satisfied
  • It just keeps going and going.
  • After all that, there he was.
  • Giving you all that I am…
  • Childhood Sweethearts, Best Friends, Lovers, Soulmates.
  • Neil Strauss should be required reading.
  • Some things are colder than winter.
  • Lifetime together gone. Divorced. Now what?
  • Can’t wait to meet/disappoint you.
  • Ooops, what was his name again?
  • Too much, too soon, too bad.
  • Worked hard, put off finding love.
  • Guys unavailable, workaholic, spoiled, no manners
  • Thought it was different. Oh well.
  • I make decisions for us now.
  • Year and a half. Almost there.
  • She’s my everything. So is he.
  • We both loved you too much.
  • I’m missing you, you’re missing life.
  • I love fighting with alpha males.
  • Excellent tooth-to-ball-cap ratio!
  • E-Harmony told us both: “No matches”.
  • his mom died. we did too.
  • we clicked thirty years still hot
  • art dance reading romance my love
  • walk Beside me,hold my hand.
  • Not my fault. I was drunk.
  • You give love a good name.
  • Marriage – It’s harder than it looks.
  • Slighly used heart, mint condition: Sold.
  • Love is here now. To stay.
  • Trying my best to walk away.
  • Head v. Heart, caught in crossfire.
  • Love is stupid and blind
  • Difficult convincing friends I’m happy single.
  • Wanderlust found me; I found him.
  • Ten years of happily married bliss.
  • Fun and travel makes marriage great.
  • Kissed many frogs. No prince yet.
  • Love is surrender into voluntary sacrifice.
  • Two years, more men, not him.
  • Third marriage; finally my soul mate
  • Girl friend took my husband. Yeah!
  • Married six month, now divorced. Oops!
  • First date, fortune cookie, happy ending!
  • We meet secretly, what a mess!
  • Boob job still no taker! Sob!
  • Prostitute credos: Love now pay later.
  • Love is not lottery! Trust me.
  • Pregnant, father unknown . . . Birth eagerly await!
  • six words? not enough, no wait!
  • Love of my life-forever gone
  • life’s fast, date night, no gas
  • Muse o’mine, Fifty-nine, Your devine.
  • high school! love school…no recess.
  • Words soothe. Actions confuse. Truth hurts.
  • Connection! Power! Ecstasy! Longing. . . . Distance . . . Nevermore.
  • Wanted: Emotionally Unavailable Man. Drama Provided.
  • Spied on Metro, Now dream fodder.
  • Not many would have done this.
  • Is the ideal intimidating for you?
  • If only friendship could be enough.
  • so close, and yet, so far.
  • Narcissist plus histrionic equals therapy time.
  • Loved you. Left you. Found me.
  • Gay or straight. It’s the same.
  • Gay with partner. State non-recognition. Sucks.
  • Should have ended before it started.
  • Wishing life were a Bollywood film.
  • “Crutches of denial Make life bearable.”
  • Punctuated sentences of silence betrayed us.
  • He brought doughnuts. I was sold.
  • Seven dollar wedding. Twenty-four priceless anniversaries.
  • Promise? We did. Until we die.
  • Will you? We did. Until Death.
  • One Ceremony. Twenty-five Anniversaries. True Love.
  • Chronically disappointed in nobody but myself.
  • It’s love–farewell, match.com.
  • More than willing-can’t help myself.
  • Time reveals tried, tested true love.
  • Six years, two kids, still smiling.
  • Loving, but not being loved : agony.
  • I love him. He loves her.
  • Love blinds you to everything.
  • How could I be so wrong?
  • First, we’re friends. And now lovers.
  • Going to marry my first love.
  • Blue and black. Never going back.
  • The key for me: gender neutrality.
  • Adored then; met again; married – sublime
  • 40 years married.40 more please!
  • The best place in the world.
  • never stop working towards SAME GOALS!
  • Not Mr. Right, Mr. Right now.
  • Lost twice, no baggage, awaiting charmer.
  • Wedding planned, but I’d rather elope.
  • Love’s labor not lost, found again.
  • Maybe in another life …
  • Eyes that met and stayed connected.
  • first “I love you” during break-up
  • Met online. Email daily. Visit occasionally.
  • Ex called to say he’s engaged.
  • Heartbroken twice, do I risk thrice?
  • Third husband, best yet, lasting love.
  • For me, it’s always, “bad timing.”
  • Past unremarkable. Future uncertain. Present unbelievable.
  • Long marriage. Great shoes. Both fit!
  • In love, medical school. Must honor.
  • Being Bored With You Is Fun
  • Dozen red, Dozen white: All returned.
  • Love lost. Love found. Bored again.
  • Cupids careless shooting slowly kills
  • Crashed a party. Fell in love.
  • Living with him, loving another.
  • Commercially driven love, high expectations, disappointment.
  • She likes LOST and Battlestar Galactica!
  • After infatuation comes tedium. Comes love.
  • man up, call me, screw texting.
  • You can leave your toothbrush here.
  • Yes, you are better than crabcakes.
  • Suddenly, I daydream, wonder, wish: you.
  • Yes, exponentially, I am that lucky.
  • Love, holding hands, our fingerprints mesh.
  • Together, especially when you, you, you!
  • Sun, earth, moon, water, wind; you.
  • I do, I said, you did.
  • She farts, evidently, I love her.
  • You left behind clothes, magazines, me.
  • Hello? Hello? It’s me. I’m sorry.
  • I only have six words to…
  • Never told her was still married.
  • First Love, Last Love: Best Love
  • finding decent date in dc? hahahaha
  • No Tools Required: Heartbreak finally repaired.
  • Just ANOTHER day. Bitter… Not Really! …drink.
  • Black Lesbian + DC = Loneliness
  • I was trying to be something.
  • I’m warm. Sometimes I see you.
  • I’m okay, lonely, but I’m okay.
  • Happy Valentine’s Day Book World. Whoops!
  • Passable husband, but precious, precious child.
  • Husband is in-laws’ ATM. No peace.
  • Blind date. Not great. Long married
  • Emphasizes loneliness. Ruins next day birthday.
  • best friend. love him, not husband.
  • and I, without you, am not.
  • So who’s this “Robert Langdon” guy?
  • You call this love? You’re weird.
  • Me, earth, stars? Inadequate for him.
  • “He was a dem’ fine fellow!”
  • Lives intertwined tho you’re not mine.
  • Married another, but still love him.
  • Your cheating? My ticket to freedom.
  • Soul mate is typically not yourself.
  • we met, sparks, confusion, solitude, separation
  • You’re cute, never sell yourself short.
  • Amar a Morir – lovely soundtrack. (YOUtube).
  • Big cat, bigger mouth, biggest heart.
  • Remember son, settle down, marry up.
  • Love never lasted . . . until I did
  • Old. Boring. Dissatisfied. Both of us.
  • Star bright, you are, just right.
  • A tryst, a trial, love unbridled.
  • Kathy’s garden grows love … her Gardner.
  • I hope she was worth it.
  • So long Together Can’t Quit now
  • Pawned his wedding ring; bought drugs.
  • Two commitment-phobes,six years, avoiding togetherness.
  • Wanted marriage. What did I know?
  • Passion dies but love lives on.
  • More fun to share the bed
  • Good in bed; bad at relating.
  • Love, finally. Grateful. Even if unrequited.
  • Ten years. Long-distance. Finally together.
  • Deaf guy, deaf gal . . . booom! Love!
  • We kissed; I flew to Congo.
  • Loved. Lost. Drank. Cried. Still hope.
  • Broken heart; shattered spirit. Still hope.
  • Eloped fourth date, Seventeenth Valentine’s Anniversary
  • found loves boaders in falling waters
  • Smart. Sassy. Single. Seeking Similar Senior.
  • We flirted, confided. You married, secretly.
  • Hot. Breathless. Dizzy. You cheated.
  • unexpected surprise, mutually spontaneous, effortlessly synapsed
  • I answered his compelling personal ad.
  • Thought I’d get over him. Haven’t.
  • Haven’t really clicked with anyone lately.
  • Romance is dead; marriage killed it.
  • Going fast in wrong direction.
  • Worried I’ll love the dog more.
  • Married a cook; dieting now.
  • so broke; yet surrounded by love
  • I got sick; he got scared.
  • True love, mid-life. At last.
  • Maybe tomorrow I’ll finally say hello.
  • So relieved he’s 2500 miles away.
  • More fun with than without you.
  • He said he’d call. Still waiting.
  • Dead wife. Broken engagement. Renewed hope.
  • Six words? Only need one: mmmph!!
  • Me or the cat? Me out.
  • Age 23. Never dated. Soon, please?
  • Mom has cancer. Love can wait.
  • It seems nobody wants an anorexic.
  • My psychiatrist’s in love with me
  • He loves me not. Peace out!!!
  • Wanted: Eight pair baby shoes; Earplugs.
  • Middle age approaches, but hope springs eternal.
  • Never dated, kissed. Date Lab, help!
  • Widowed young. Ghastly remarriage. Marking time.
  • He died so I can live!
  • Greek girl. My swollen Anglo heart!
  • Tread softly, a dream lies here.
  • Descartes, about his crush: “Whenever I see her, I…” (poof)
  • Miss hon, my love. Stupid cancer.
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